- Vika, how do you assess the world of swingers in general? - asked Christina.

- Actually, there is no single and integral world of swingers. In this world there are several directions, different in style of behavior and almost not intersecting with each other like currents in the ocean. I would call the “Gulf Stream” of the swingers world the so-called “disposable” swingers. These are the ones who swing with a new pair for themselves only once. Although in correspondence and in a preliminary meeting, they pretend to be aspiring to permanent swing relationships.

- Why do they behave like this?

- It is difficult to say unequivocally. Maybe women in such couples do not want to re-establish relationships with repeated meetings, so that there is no risk that regular partners will become rivals and take their man away from them. Or maybe “disposables” simply skim the cream of the most thrill of first and only sex with a new couple. But the fact remains: “disposable” at first depict the desire for regular partners, and after the first joint sex disappear without explanation. I myself got caught on such a hook, although I already knew from the words of our interlocutors with Alexey about the “disposables”.

- So you still had a real swing, and not just conversations with swingers? - I asked.

- Once was. As our research progressed, I was increasingly entering the role of Alexey's “bride,” so that we would really be perceived as a couple. And when Alexey somehow joked that it would be time for us to try the swing, I also jokingly told him: “Why not as an exception if I get a couple worthy of me”.

- And such a pair caught?

- Gotcha. They were about 35 years old. Beautiful, well-groomed, stylish. Interesting, witty interlocutors. They said to themselves that they were spouses, that he was a photo artist and designer, and she was a concertmaster (but maybe it was a lie). She herself was courteous, and she had a completely charming voice. I just melted in out of attention to me and agreed to continue the meeting in bed. It was a fantastic sex with just transcendental emotions. I can say I fell in love with this couple. We agreed on the next meeting, but all our subsequent attempts to contact them were dropping the call.

- Still, in these "disposables" there is a false ...

- I was then just morally crushed by their deception. It felt like they used me and threw me out as a condom that was no longer needed. And I told Alexey that I was leaving the project and that he needed to find a new partner for himself.

- It's sad all this somehow ...

- So life is arranged: where there are no supernaturals, there are no over-frustrations either. But life without a difference of positive and negative emotions is not life, but existence.

- What other trends are there in the world of swingers?

- Well, for example, there are “contactless” pairs or swingers without exchanging partners. They first show their pair sex partners, and then watch pair sex partners. Such a peculiar form of mutual exhibitionism, public sex for a select audience. Theater of two couples who change roles of actors and spectators. And without any medical and psychological risks.

“This is probably fun,” Christine commented.

“Contactless” is a rather rare form of swinging, since the overwhelming majority need to possess someone else’s woman. So “contactless” is not so easy to find like-minded people.

- What other forms are there?

- There are "club". These are those couples who do not particularly spend time on sex-dating sites, but prefer to be a clientele of swinger clubs, which in Russia are usually disguised as tantra clubs. At meetings of the "club" is a few dozen pairs. But such clubs are always a business project with payment for the stay at the meeting to the manager. So everything is pragmatic and there is no place for romance and high relations: the main thing is the maximum number of sex partners in paid time.

“No, this is definitely not for me,” said Christina.

- There are still “party people”, friendly swingers parties in apartments. This is absolutely not a business - there are no membership fees. But guests invited by the owner of the apartment should come with their own wine and snacks. And then there is the improvisation of sexual relations among those who have gathered several couples.

- Well, this is somehow more like a swing with a human face than the "club".

- There are still “snowdrops”. Here we are talking about a mini-club, limited to only two or three pairs. A third pair is desirable for some minimal choice. And the fourth pair is no longer needed, so as not to create a crowd. They rarely appear on dating sites - only in cases when for some reason one couple leaves their mini-club for some reason and she needs to find a replacement. Those two couples of great interest for whom I spoke were just from the “snowdrops”.

- Christina, but why do you ask about swingers? Such impression, that you conceived something, - Irina told.

- I'm not really thinking. I think rather. Do not give me your ex the last opportunity to improve our relationship.

- Do you want to try swing with him or what?

- Maybe a swing. In the end, because I changed him with the pick-ups. So, I myself unwittingly created for him the right to have sex with other girls. But then it is better that this third-party sex will be before my eyes and with my participation.

- Christina, I do not want to either discourage you from swing, nor agitate for swing. But your thoughts are about the formal observance of the balance of relationships, and not about the essence of the relationship. You do not forget that sex is also an exchange of bio-energetic entities. In sex of a more harmonious person with a less harmonious person, bioenergetic alignment occurs. A less harmonious partner is fueled by the harmony of life, and a part of disharmony sticks to a more harmonious partner and it falls. Higher sex with the lower is a drain on the higher life potential. If you catch an infection during a swing, it can be cured more or less quickly from doctors (if it is not AIDS or genital herpes). And if you pick up a bioenergy problem from your sexual partners, then you will have to live with it for some time. Maybe a very long time.

- I somehow did not think about this aspect.

“You're definitely not alone here.” In his youth, while a person is full of vitality, this is rarely thought about. Tell me, why do you still want to give your ex one last chance? You kind of broke your relationship ...

- Yes, broke off. Because I did not know that I would knock out Andrew from the position of my erotic slave. I do not want to be his mistress, but still there is a deep connection between us. In general, I'm completely confused ...

“In any case, you are right in one thing, Christine,” Vika re-entered the conversation, “stereotypically established relations of two cannot be changed from the inside. They can either be completely severed or altered through relations with someone from the external environment. You can not get yourself out of the swamp, grabbing yourself by the hair - you need an external unit.

- That's why I thought about sharing the swing experience with Andrey. I want to break the vicious circle of our relationship with him with the help of another couple or other couples. But couples in which relationships are harmonious. Same as yours.It is a pity that you are not swingers. And then I would have asked for help just for you.

- And which of our two pairs would you choose first? - Vika smiled.

- I do not know, I like both couples.

- Ira, I wonder what our men think about all this?

“I think that it’s more important what Andrei thinks about all this,” Viktor Ivanovich tried to laugh it off.

“He will definitely be in shock, but I’m sure that he will respect my request to try,” Christina cut off the attempt to laugh it off.

- Consent is a product of complete non-resistance of the parties. And wise agreement is a product of complete non-resistance of wise parties, ”added Yuri.