.. On the other hand, again depends on the person. My friend also has problems with girls, but he likes to masturbate. It helps him. And I was just annoyed. It even becomes disgusting in some situations. I want a woman! Because no masturbation (both male and female, by the way) is simply incomparable with real sex. As my girl used to say (she liked to watch me masturbate), recognizing more, begins to refuse less. In this sense, I said that it was better not to engage in sex - there would be fewer problems.

I intend to devote the following letter to the discussion of female psychology and physiology. Do you remember how you asked the girls?

Of course, I am not an expert, but I will try to describe what I know. If this will help you even a little ... Wait for the next letter. Greetings

Sergei

Dear Irina! I already wrote that I am not an expert, so please do not take my words as the ultimate truth. Actually, you can even forget about them. However, just in case, suddenly it will be interesting for you, I want to share with you some observations.

First of all. I don’t know what kind of guys you have there (I doubt that something special is), but I remember that at that age I wasn’t worth absolutely nothing. On the one hand, the interests are somewhat different, the style of behavior, and the concept of decency, honesty, etc. The boys are not interested in sex at this age. At best, romantic love. For example, I wrote poems to the subject of my passion, which finally exhausted this subject. Maybe if I acted a little differently ... On the other hand, there’s really little sense from them (there would be no harm!). Probably, when the first time and even at this age, you will only take care of yourself, to finish as soon as possible, and do only what you want. I think there can be no more attentiveness and attention. Well, they are not yet ripe for this!

Secondly. It is very important. You write that you would like only affection, but for more you are not ready yet. A truly attentive and gentle man should feel this and not insist on what the girl does not want or fear. However, most men, as I have already said, only think about ending necessarily, right down to the actual violence. They do not understand what consequences this behavior may have for a woman. My former classmate (now, of course, married) once said that it is very important for a man to know all the positions listed in the Kama Sutra. I argued with her then, I do not agree now. In my opinion, bare knowledge of success will not bring. A man should be able to feel.

And the last. About female sexuality. Stuck is very complicated. There are many different types of women, and yet for each of them it is individual. For example, my friend, about whom I already wrote, came to the conclusion that all women in bed are the same. Indeed, some general lines of behavior can be traced, and yet ... Ok, enough of an empty theorizing. I wanted to tell you a little how it is in girls. With examples from life, of course.

In women, it seems to me, the habit is made faster and easier. Any particular rhythm. For example, my beloved lived in an apartment with a friend for a long time. When I found out the address, I started coming every day while he was at work. We had a lot of sex. So, once I called and said that I would come. But something did not work out, and I came only the next day. So she told me how she could not stand it and had to take a shower out of turn. Then, when she already lived with her parents, we locked ourselves in her room, when her sister and brother were at home, and went to “rest”. And when, on the contrary, there is no man for a long time, a woman gets used to it and it is rather difficult to “persuade” her.Need disappears, understand? I note in parentheses that women's desires also depend on the hormone, which is in the male sperm. Hence the direct connection: no sex - no desire. However, all this applies only to adult women (I do not want to offend you). After all, it is still very important to feel like a woman. And, apparently, in you this feeling is already awakening. I am very happy for you! But one of my friends soon 30, but she still did not feel like a woman. It is hard for her and for others. And one of my friends only once (!) Tried to masturbate once in her life, and she no longer wants, she says she is disgusted. But she began to live with men at the age of 14. Once even hired for money out of curiosity of some youngster.

On the other hand, women (it seems to me) have relatively fewer problems finding a sexual partner. You understand: you get acquainted with girls not only in discos, in a cinema or a cafe, but also on the street or in the subway. So the problems of finding a friend for the evening ... And then it all depends on the girl herself, on her character and desire. Solve her. I even think that this ease, even spontaneity, in communication, leads to some detachment of women. In bed - yes, a woman should only think about herself. But in life ... Some have a husband, or a regular boyfriend, they are people too, and they also have some feelings. My girlfriend and I have been together for four years. Some will say - the term. I still can not come to myself, and she, apparently, does not care. Men tend to experience deeper and more dramatic than women. I don’t know if this is good or bad, but at least what I wrote to you here, I didn’t read it somewhere in the books, this is life. It is a pain. This is happiness. Be happy, Ira! I am very happy for you, I am glad that you are, I am very good with you. I wish you happiness. However, we will talk about happiness some other time. And without this letter in any box will not fit. Write as soon as possible. Good luck! respectfully

Sergei

P. S. They say that a woman always returns to the person with whom she was good (in sex). But, as you know, there are exceptions to any rule. But here's the rule, the exceptions from which I (so far) do not know: if a woman wants to leave, she leaves. Whatever relationship you have, I'm not talking about love ...