Hello Irina! Asking decently, the Internet will not blush. Although I think that if we met in life, I at least would not have to blush. And so I doubt, all of a sudden I misunderstood you: you wanted me to confine myself to some common words, and I would begin to tell everything in order. Sorry if that.

Still, I hope that you will find the answer to your question somehow (preferably without my help).

First I had a woman three years older. We met by chance even at work. She came to Kiev from another city, rented an apartment here and it so happened that she told me that she had a strained relationship with the hostess and didn’t really want to return. And my parents just went on vacation for two weeks. I invited her to live a little with me. She agreed. I secretly, of course, thought about it, but when she began to live with me, I could not decide to do anything. We have two rooms, so we are divided. It was probably a little stupid. One evening some guests came (I don’t remember well). When they left, we still danced, and then began to wash the dishes. Then, as always, they went to their rooms. Then I decided that if not now, then never, and transferred my pillow to it. For some time we just lay there. Then I turned to her, probably, to ask something, and she put my hand on herself ... Of course, then she was more experienced. However, I tried very hard and she even asked if I had this before. The first time I was just thrilled. I have long wanted to see what is there in a woman between her legs. And I not only looked, but also smelled and licked it with my tongue. I really liked it. Then it even became a habit, and now, when I have no one, I suffer a lot because of the lack of sex, and I even think that if I hadn’t tried it at all, it would be easier for me now.

Women are a little different. Apart from purely physiological sensations, which I cannot judge, the first experience without appropriate psychological preparation can even bring disgust. It very much depends on what kind of man is with you, what feelings you have for him, how selfish he is, etc. Sorry, I speak trite truths, but it turns out that way. I do not think that the first time should be only from big love, but if a man cannot (or does not want) how to take care of you, it can be a great psychological trauma for you for a very long time. Rejecting false modesty, I hope that everything would work out for me. And regarding the age - just recently there was a conversation about this in FidoNet. People believe that 12-14 years old is normal. My point of view is much more complicated. Sorry if I say something wrong. I believe that it is very important for a woman to masturbate in order to know her body. It all depends on how prepared YOU are for it. And age ... There are girls (who are just shy and, therefore, can not do anything) and in 30 years. In general, I think the sooner the better. In any case, you choose. And do not think about anyone except yourself! Remember: the most important thing in sex is a woman. If he does not bring satisfaction to a woman, then nobody needs it, and it is even harmful. I am glad for you, if you stand on the threshold of this amazing discovery. Just do not make a mistake in your decision!

Really attentive men, alas, are rare. So that later it would not be painfully painful ...

So our first conversation on a “frank” topic took place. Did I hurt you with anything? Would you be so frank with me? I look forward to your letters. I keep them all and am very pleased with our correspondence. Once again, I'm sorry if something seemed unpleasant to you. Write as soon as possible! Kisses

Seryoga

Dear Irina! Stop embarrassing! It is convenient for me that you wrote such a letter. This is just great. Thanks again.

See, you say you can't think of what to write about. It turns out you can! Well done. There is something to talk about! My answer, most likely, will consist of two parts - I want to tell you so much. It is a pity that we are so far from each other ...

How are you not used to the fact that children are not shy of their parents? Listen to the word: NATURIZM. It is NATURAL for them. They often see parents and all their friends naked, they themselves go without clothes: they have an appropriate upbringing. This is their way of life, for them it is natural, so what is there to be ashamed of? I think that we would have much less problems if we were raised by naturists. After all, much depends on education. Naturism is CULTURE, in many ways superior to ours, based on violence and hypocrisy. By the way, we almost answered your second question. I must say that he was very pleased with me, however, as well as pleasantly surprised. The fact is that involuntary reaction to a naked body in men is manifested only in a few cases. Of course, if a man is young (green, inexperienced). If we are talking about sexual contact (for example, during the so-called pre-game). Sometimes just when meeting with your loved one, if you have not seen each other for a long time. Normal people have sex either after work or at night at all. Usually they go dressed, for them nakedness is taboo. And if the naked body view is available practically at any time of the day, there is a lot of it and no one forbids anything, such spontaneous reactions gradually fade away. Do you know that in France, for example, there are entire villages on the seashore, good, the climate allows, where ALL-ROUND YEAR people go without clothes? On the roads leading to such settlements, there are usually warning signs like: appearance in public places in clothes is prohibited. Can you imagine? And on the other hand, from personal experience I can say that when it is long, then the eggs hurt even longer. All day you walk, slightly bent or even limping. Very unpleasant feeling.

The matter is not even in habit (although in it, too, wait for the next letter). For example, I like most of all to caress women with their tongues and lips. This is pleasant in itself (it is pleasant - poorly said!), But I, for example, receive the greatest pleasure from what pleasure I give to the one next to me. It is in this sense that they talk about love in bed. As if it is important. Important, of course, but not at all mandatory. It's just harder to feel without love: I enjoy not my feelings, but the feelings of my partner. Do you understand? The better for her, the better for me. It is very difficult to describe, unfortunately. That's why I said that in sex only a woman matters. A man receives satisfaction automatically - and the more, the more fully he was able to satisfy his partner. But, unfortunately, not all men understand this (and even more so they can). Usually they only care about their satisfaction, and their wives have to be content with little (at best).

So there may be frigidity and even a lot of different female diseases. God forbid you such a man! By the way, about women's diseases. The best cure for them is having sex. This is a well-known opinion, and I can only confirm it on the basis of personal experience. In general, it is useful for everyone, but especially for women. And abstinence, on the contrary, is harmful. Especially in your situation. You, as I understand it, desire sometimes arises. Of course, a shower is a solution, but a solution is only a short-term one! I will not even describe the possible consequences of unmet desires. Desires in general, and especially in sex. Still, this is the most powerful instinct.

The letter is already quite long, so my problems are short. I started to masturbate at about 12 years old. If you have not tried a woman yet, it brings some satisfaction.And now, it happens, even the tension does not relieve.

I still want to. With a woman I have not been for more than a year. At first, somehow you could endure ....