Control orgasm. Training submissive finish on orders.

First of all, let's define what is at stake. The management of an orgasm consists of two basic elements. The first is to teach the submissive to delay orgasm until it is resolved by the Dominant. The second, much more complicated technique, consists in training the submissive to have an orgasm by order, as a rule, expressed in words, without the physical stimulation normally required for sexual relaxation.

What is this training for?

In a word: for control. The relationship between the Dominant and the submissive is based on the transfer of power, and the submissive doesn’t have as much intimate that you could give the Dominant as your own orgasm. If a submissive can have an orgasm, takes control of himself, and reasonably copes with this aspect of his life, the transfer of the right to orgasm to the Dominant can add to the relationship a depth that is hard to imagine.

By transferring control, the submissive at the sensual level is convinced of how much his body belongs to the Dominant. For a submissive, orgasm is no longer self-evident as the natural culmination of a sexual act. Satisfaction is at the discretion of the owner, who can allow, postpone or prohibit it at his own discretion. Masturbation ceases to be an occupation that the submissive is free to indulge in as soon as he has a mood. For these sensations, special permission also becomes necessary. The submissive's sexuality completely passes into the hands of the person to whom this control is handed over, and the submissive does not know when he will receive an order to put himself at the disposal of the Dominant in order to please him.

Topic 1: Delayed Orgasm

Teaching a submissive to delay an orgasm until permission is granted to end - a common thematic practice. This is relatively easy if the sabissive does not have any individual problems associated with orgasm.

Attention Dominants: before you start training, you should be very familiar with the sexual responses of your submissive. You should know the signs of an approaching orgasm - such as, for example, changes in breathing, reddening of the skin, changes in facial expressions, sounds that he makes when he is on the verge of orgasm. These signs are always individual, and until you know exactly how this partner ends, do not count on successful control of his orgasm. To attention of submissives: your Dominant is not a telepath. To know exactly when you are approaching orgasm, he needs feedback from you, he is counting on it. Your sexual arousal is individual, so first your partner needs your help to study your body. Tell Dominant when you approach the point of excitement after which an orgasm is inevitable. If you are uncomfortable talking during sex, agree on some conditional signal, which will mean: "now I can not stop." After several sessions, the partner will learn to identify and “catch” the signs of your approaching orgasm.

So starting

From the very beginning, you should clearly bring to the consciousness of your submissive, that orgasm is permitted only by special permission. In the early stages of learning, this condition must accompany every sexual contact. In the future, the need for such a reminder will disappear, since it will become a matter of course for the submissive. Each time, having sex, watch for signs of the approaching submissive orgasm. If you see that the orgasm is very close, but the submissive has not yet asked permission to finish, remind him of his duties. For example, you can say with your most dominant voice: “Your orgasm belongs to me; You won't cum without my permission. ”This should teach the submissive to beg for permission when the time comes. At first, every request for orgasm should be rewarded with an immediate permission, which will send the partner to the paradise of orgasm. This is a fundamentally important point, since in this way a direct association is established between the request to end and the pleasant sensations of sexual discharge.

Every time a submissive manages to ask for permission on time, praise him, say that you are satisfied and proud of his success. Say it while it ends. Say and then, after the session. It is important for a submissive to know that you approve of his behavior.

Over time, gradually more and more delay the permission to finish after the submissive turned to you with this request. It is important not to overdo it, not to doom the partner to failure from the very beginning, prematurely expecting from him a long delay. At first, the delay should not exceed a few seconds. If you demand too much too quickly, the partner may not cope with the delay of the orgasm, and will then feel guilty. Essentially, the principle of learning is simple: in the early stages, encourage success immediately and often. Little by little, as the orgasm is under control, increase the requirements.

Above we have already emphasized the importance of knowing the signals of an approaching orgasm, which are individual for each person. But there are some signs common to most. The approach of orgasm is accompanied by rapid shallow breathing and palpitations. In males, the scrotum thickens, and the testicles tightly pressed into the body. This is due to a biological fact, about which you may not know: without this, a man cannot reach orgasm, so use this to delay orgasm. You can gently pull the testicles from the body, holding the scrotum between the thumb and index fingers and pulling. Another method of preventing orgasm is to clamp. This is done by tightly compressing the penis between the thumb and index finger and the middle finger directly under the head for three to four seconds. Then you need to let go and wait 15-30 seconds before resuming the stimulation. During this short “intermission”, switch attention to other parts of the body so that the excitement remains acute, but the immediate need for an orgasm will subside.

Continue repeating this cycle of bringing almost to orgasm and then preventing it until you are satisfied with the cries and pleas of the submissive. And then, when the submissive once again comes to the brink of orgasm, let me finish.

Be consistent. Until the submissive reaches the degree of control you desire, drastic changes in the demands made on him can derail all your work. In other words, from the moment you started training, ban an orgasm without permission. Strongly and unconditionally. And if you intend to go ahead and train a submissive to finish on command, always use the same word or phrase in order to give permission to finish. Do not forget about the main thing: the purpose of an orgasm is pleasure for both of you. Carelessness or unrealistic, high expectations Dominant may end in loss of all pleasure from sex. Submissives always want to please their Dominants - help them by stimulating success, not failures.

What to do if the submissive ended up without permission? At first, one cannot do without it, just as one cannot learn to run a marathon in the blink of an eye. A submissive needs time, your patience and practice. A lot of practice. The bigger, the better. In the early stages of training, you can be a little tricky: if you see that the partner did not have time to ask permission, but you can’t stop the orgasm, give yourself an order to finish, because it is too late to do something else. So you, at least, support the connection between the order to finish and orgasm. And after having sex, talk to the submissive and remind him - at first delicately - that his orgasm belongs to you.If an unauthorized orgasm continues to be a problem, you may have to re-discuss this whole aspect of your relationship.

Topic 2: Team Orgasm

Team orgasm - the holy grail of sexual control. He is also elusive ...